Safety at Nolies

Nolies is 18+ only. Here's exactly how we keep it that way, and how we handle the people who don't play fair.

18+, no exceptions

Every Nolies account requires you to confirm you're 18 or older at signup. Nolies Connect (our dating section) goes further: nobody's profile becomes visible to anyone else until they've passed government-ID and liveness verification through our verification partner, Didit. We never store your ID photo — Didit confirms your identity and age to us, and that's the only thing we keep.

What we actually check, and how

Every message, reel caption, comment, and Connect chat is scanned before and after it's sent, for:

  • Harassment, threats, and hate speech — pattern-based detection, backed by a keyword list our moderators actively maintain.
  • Self-harm language — flagged content is routed straight to review, with the crisis resources below shown alongside it.
  • Scam patterns — requests for money, gift cards, crypto, wire transfers, or bank details; and attempts to move a conversation off Nolies before asking for any of that, a classic scam setup we watch for specifically.
  • Spam and bot behavior — not just message content, but the pattern of how fast someone is messaging, liking, or creating accounts. A burst of activity that looks automated gets flagged for review even if no single message trips a filter.
  • Repeat offenders — content from a device or address with a recent history of violations gets a lower bar for review, so the same bad actor doesn't get a clean slate on every new message.

We're honest about what this is: automated pattern-matching that catches a lot, misses some, and occasionally over-flags something harmless. Every flag — automated or user-reported — lands in the same queue a real person reviews. It is not a fully autonomous AI making final calls on your account.

Tools you control

  • Block — instantly and permanently stops someone from reaching you again, on messages or in Connect.
  • Report — flags a message, profile, reel, or comment for our moderation team. Reports involving a possible scam or a minor are prioritized ahead of the general queue.
  • Pause your link (anonymous messaging) — temporarily or permanently stop new anonymous messages from reaching you without deleting your account.
  • Hidden words & advanced filtering — set your own stricter content threshold for what reaches your inbox.
  • Anonymous by default — nobody sees your identity when they send you a message unless you choose to reveal it.

Enforcement

What happens depends on severity, not a fixed script: a first minor slip gets a warning; harassment, scam attempts, or repeated violations get accounts suspended or permanently banned; anything involving a minor gets an immediate, permanent ban of the account and every device linked to it — banning the account alone doesn't stop someone from just signing up again on the same phone, so we check for that. Severe violations are reported to law enforcement.

Nolies Connect — extra safeguards

  • Verified before visible. ID and liveness verification, every profile, before anyone else can see it.
  • Zero tolerance for solicitation or trafficking. Using Connect to solicit commercial sexual services or for any form of trafficking is a top-severity violation — immediate permanent ban, account and device, and a law-enforcement report.
  • Photo screening. Every uploaded photo is checked before it's visible to anyone.
  • Anonymous Spark. An optional, fully anonymized signal — it never reveals who or what, only that you've been kind on Nolies before.
  • You're still meeting a stranger. Verification confirms who someone is — it can't guarantee how they'll behave in person. Meet in public, tell a friend where you're going, and trust your instincts.

Protecting minors

Nolies is not for anyone under 18 — full stop. Any content that sexualizes, targets, or endangers a minor gets the account and every linked device banned immediately, with evidence preserved (never deleted) for law enforcement, and a mandatory report to the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC) via their CyberTipline, in addition to removing the content. If you see anything like this, report it immediately through the in-app Report button — it's routed to the top of our review queue — or email safety@nolies.xyz. Don't try to investigate or engage with the account yourself.

Your data, honestly

We use a small number of named third-party services to run Nolies — Firebase (infrastructure, push notifications, crash reporting), Didit (identity verification for Connect), Google AdMob (ads), and Meta/Facebook (ad performance measurement). Passwords are hashed with bcrypt and never stored in plain text. We do not sell your data. See our Privacy Policy for the full, specific breakdown of what's collected, what's kept, and for how long — including how to request deletion.

Reporting a safety concern

  • Use the Report button on any message, reel, comment, or Connect profile — it's the fastest path to our queue.
  • Email our safety team: safety@nolies.xyz
  • If you're in immediate danger, contact local law enforcement first.

Mental health resources

If you're struggling, please reach out to someone who can help right now:

  • 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (US): call or text 988
  • Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741741
  • International Association for Suicide Prevention: iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres

Frequently asked questions

Someone's asking me for money or gift cards. What do I do?

Stop responding, don't send anything, and report the account immediately — this is exactly the pattern our scam detection is built to catch. Block them right after reporting.

A match wants to move our conversation to WhatsApp/Telegram/Instagram right away. Is that a red flag?

By itself, not necessarily — but it's the single most common precursor to a romance scam, because it gets the conversation off a platform anyone's monitoring. Be extra cautious if it happens before you've had a real conversation, and never send money or personal financial details to someone you've only spoken to off-platform.

What should I do if I receive a threatening message?

Report it immediately using the Report button, block the sender, and email safety@nolies.xyz. If you're in immediate danger, contact local law enforcement.

Can I see who blocked me?

No. Blocking is private in both directions — you won't know if someone's blocked you, and they won't know you've blocked them.

How do I report child exploitation?

Immediately, via the in-app Report button (highest priority in our queue) or safety@nolies.xyz. We report all confirmed CSAM/CSAE to NCMEC's CyberTipline as required by law — you don't need to report separately, but you can also report directly at CyberTipline.org.

I got banned but think it was a mistake. What now?

Email support@nolies.xyz with your account details and why you believe the action was wrong. We review every appeal.